SEXUAL PROTECTION 
Q: (slightly edited) “What happens energetically to a woman when she uses protection? It has been painful for me, and a sacrifice. To have sex I have paid, through pain. My last relationship was a catastrophe. Is there anything I can do so that my next one doesn’t suffer the same fate? I would like it to be a normal, balanced interaction and I don’t want to take hormones.
Z: The subject of sexual protection is a fundamental one for women. Our vagina is an opening that leads to the innermost core of the body and also of our psyche. Even with physical protection we feel exposed, vulnerable. It is important to understand and honour this. Sensitivity is experienced at many, many levels. The fear of pregnancy compounds this and often colours it.
There is no way of skirting the issue of artificial protection in today’s world. If I were you I’d search for a good alternative woman gynaecologist and have a long talk with her about the real risks and possibilities. Nothing “energetic” will work unless the woman has complete and total mastery over both her emotions and the power of thought. Until then, the body needs artificial means. Natural medicine is also uncertain. I would rely only on proven medical methods of protection, or abstention.
I must confess that it was not until I had had my own child and decided upon a tubal ligation, did I feel wholly safe from the shadow of pregnancy, and was free to explore my body and its responses uninhibitedly. Until then I took pills and had an intra-uterine device for many, many years, each with its own limitations but effective none the less. There are several non-hormonal methods available today, check them out.
But, my dear, I am afraid your reaction comes from another place. Search inside yourself for your truest feelings about sex, or at least the kind of sex you have been having. It should not be painful at all, and if it is, see why. This pain comes from other, deeper issues. See if, through understanding and self-compassion you can get rid of the psychological fears surrounding all this. Be happy, with and by yourself. Be whole. Most of all remember that sex must never be an obligation or a means towards anything. It should arise from your innermost self and become a sacred expression. The law of attraction, in this case, will respond to your soul needs. Give it time, and trust.
For more sensitive women, protection is a matter to be shared with your partner.
Check my book and train with it!
My love, xxx Zzz
