Masculine or Feminine

22 April 2011

We say there is a masculine side to women and a feminine side to men.   It only seems this way.  Energy type doesn’t cross over as a result of choice or accident.  Energy works in specific ways through each gender, with definite demarcations and movement.

Women can’t help manipulating and men can’t help competing.  Women may compete and men might manipulate, but we do so in different ways.  If our nature as women is to bring forth and condition life, men’s is to develop it, challenge it, and stretch its limits.  If as a woman I choose to lead, to debate, to construct upon ideas, I will do it as a woman.  If a man chooses to influence our world indirectly, in his case through his competence with thought patterns, he will do it most definitely as a man.  Almost everyone would agree that men are infinitely less complicated than women, and that women are emotionally far stronger. Their energies may express different things but they act essentially differently in doing so.  To judge by appearances is a dreadful mistake.

Whenever a woman shows aggression, determination or any form of ambition she is instantly tagged as masculine, yet the lioness is naturally aggressive when she hunts and protects her offspring.  Men complain about women stepping over them, but I don’t see any male lions getting upset about their consorts’ behaviour.  On the contrary.   What is called a woman’s masculine side is still feminine, only moreso.

When a man cries or shows emotion, when he gives in instead of fight, he is said to be using his feminine side.  Yet the most exalted feature of masculinity is the nobility of yielding.   The so-called feminine side of men is still masculine, still rational even if silent,  and still unable to survive the depths of hades like a woman.  Scratch a little and you reach his analytical core, his spontaneous disconnection from irrational complexities.  Go beyond a woman’s aggression and you will discover that her instinctual embracing energy will enfold you in any number of ways.

To speak frankly, the now fashionable gentle-male brings tremendous relief to women but it also brings boredom, for having relinquished its particular parameters of dominance, so necessary for a woman’s stability.  What men ultimately need from a woman is inspiration as a state of being, something that an alpha female is unwilling and incapable of providing.   In an effort to correct gender abuse men feel compelled to become weaker and women are driven to demand.

Weak softness in men reflects an inhibition which, although brought about by intelligent deduction is dangerous to him and to the women he seeks to honour.  The excessive force and disguised desperation exerted by some women is a way of claiming a part of herself she cannot yet define.  It only casts her deeper into a pit she knows all too well.